How to Have a confident Attitude That Propels You to Success - Part 8

How to Have a confident Attitude That Propels You to Success - Part 8

Murphy - How to Have a confident Attitude That Propels You to Success - Part 8

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Do you have a Complex?

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"Associated images and frozen memories of traumatic moments...are buried deep in the subconscious"

C.G.Jung

Have you ever felt like you have "some kind of complex?" Maybe your sensitivity level is higher with regard to clear issues. You hear citizen bring up issues which disturb your inner peace and you are forced to confront them if only in your own mind. Possibly you have buttons that clear citizen know how to push and set you into a downward emotional, psychological, and/or spiritual spiral.

Don't Push My Buttons

Ralph, a friend of mine, told me once about a lady that he was good friends with and even dated at one time. They got along marvelously well except on single occasions. She would say or do something that more or less "set him off" and made him angry. He often said to me, "She truly knows how to push my buttons."

She would begin to talk about men who were a bit controlling over their spouses or important other. Much of the time, she would mildly mention something that remotely resembled a commentary about men acting this way.

Ralph said, "It was like she would have to ruin my day by starting all that. I understanding that she did it on purpose and sadistically enjoyed getting me ticked off."

Have you ever injured your body in a clear place only too bump into that very place over and over again, re-injuring yourself and manufacture it even worse? From our experiences and straight through the history of our lives, we have emotional places which have never truly healed completely. We sometimes report them as "sore spots." We hear person on television say something that reminds us of our "sore spot" and it changes our mood, maybe causing us to feel depressed or simply irritated.

The supreme psychiatrist and a founder of analytical psychology, Carl Jung, described these "sore spots" as "complexes." In fact, Jung's writings are where we get this word when describing person who, for instance, has an "inferiority complex." These are weaknesses in our internal world that have likely been put there by trauma that we've experienced on some level.

Suzanne had been in any relationships and could never seem to stay in one longer than a few months. She was a thriving attorney, always drove a new European luxury sedan, lived in a million dollar plus home, ate in the finest restaurants, and took exotic vacations. She showed up one day for counseling and right away, let me know exactly "what she understanding of men." Men, in Suzanne's opinion, were unreliable, untrustworthy, and womanizing users. The way she described it to me was, "Every man I've ever known or have been with, is the same."

Suzanne saw men straight through her own filter and enlarged that filter straight through her ongoing experiences with men. As I've said often, "When things are not right in your life and the same event is repeated over and over again, at some point, if you are going to get free of the recurrence of that undesirable experience, you must take responsibility. You must identify that the coarse denominator in these events is You."

Now, if I just hit a sore spot with you, my friend and popular reader, please, stay with me. Put in order yourself to get free of having to continue repeating negative events, such as the one I've just described. I'm here to help, not to hurt. You can rid yourself of these sore spots permanently.

Come on. Say out loud, "Michael Murphy is my friend and wants to help me get good in my life." Now, don't you feel better? (Seriously, I truly do want to help you; that is why I've written this article.)

You Are Not Alone

I heard a guy repeat a Biblical quotation once with a itsybitsy bit of a twist. He said, "I know that the truth will set me free, but before free time arrives, it always seems to first make me miserable." This is the case when facing things that push your buttons or what Jung described as complexes.

First, let's ask the question, "Does everyone on the planet have these same (or similar) events happening in their lives? Do others have crap that happens to them which causes them the same pain that 'I' feel and which it seems they can never get free from?" The answer, of course, is "Yes, they do." Maybe not with the exact same intensity or straight through the same kind of situations. But our hurts, mistakes, and wrong decisions, are coarse human experiences.

Yes, trauma is coarse among all of humankind; however, you may have something exact to you that seems to haunt you over and over again. So let's identify that not everyone experiences the same obstacles that you may in exactly the same way as you. Nonetheless, the coarse ground we sense is much the same.

Second, let's face the reality that whatever it is that you deal with over and over again, is something that brings you enough pain that you want to get rid of it and move on with your life. Friend, let me say something here. Chronic pain is miserable to live with. Either it is physical, reasoning or emotional, pain is not fun. You need to take the attitude that you are going to do whatever it takes to get rid of it.

Take a moment, right now, and let yourself focus on your desire to get rid of your emotional pain. Let your inner will open up to at least getting good in whatever area you feel that clear "sore spot."

Imagine your life without it. How would it feel to be able to not sense the pain that you've felt in the past? Now, start to imagine how it would feel to be free from it, on a deeper level. Let it soak in and even marinate your emotions. How would you view things differently if you were free from those negative emotions?

I'm not saying that you are going to be thoroughly free the very first time you do what I've just led you in doing. I am saying that as you continue to give yourself some relief and quit torturing yourself with things that have happened in the past, you will move closer and closer to being free of the intense hurt that you've felt.

Beth had an extremely traumatic upbringing. Her father left when she was eight months old. He never came back or even acknowledged that he had a daughter until Beth reunited with him after becoming an adult.

Beth, her mother, two older sisters, and one older brother struggled for approximately two decades. They lived on food stamps. Sometimes they were forced to sleep in their car and in homeless shelters. Her mum was considered to survive and she succeeded.

Beth at last went to college and ultimately earned a Masters degree in sociology. Beth longed to have a happy connection with a man but could never get past what her father had done to her family.

When Beth decided to seek help and attempted to get past what had happened earlier in her life, she came to see me. Her epiphany came two years after her father had died. Her "Ah-ha!" moment came when she faced the reality that she had let a live human being dictate her early trauma in life. Now she was allowing person who was dead to continue to adversely influence her own happiness.

On that overwhelming day, Beth rose up out of her chair and said, "My God, I'm letting a Dead Man operate my happiness. How weird is that?!" For the next two weeks, Beth would call me and say, "Michael, do you comprehend that I have allowed a Dead Man to operate my moods, how I feel about myself, how I feel about others, and approximately thoroughly operate my happiness?"

She learned to let it go and make the change that was within her power to make, when she realized the true nature of what she was doing. That day, Beth's life started turning around. She learned to allow her emotional scars to be thoroughly healed and got started on a new life.

I know. You want to know the rest of the story of Beth. She did meet the man of her dreams and from the last sense I had with her, she is living a successful, extremely productive, and very happy life with her husband and two children of her own.

Third, as I mentioned earlier, get brutally honest with yourself. identify that the qoute is not person else's problem. It is your qoute and only you can take the steps important to fix it. You can fix it. In fact, only you can fix it.

Keep reading the next in this series. You are going to get the tools, inspiration and motivation to getting clear so you can live the life you deserve.

I hope you have new knowledge about Murphy. Where you may offer use within your daily life. And most of all, your reaction is passed about Murphy. Read more.. How to Have a confident Attitude That Propels You to Success - Part 8.

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